Whirlwind

Our life right now is a whirlwind..... of choice, of opportunities, and of decisions. 

But today's post is about something else.  What do you do when you like a mom, but not the influence her child has on yours? 

Now let me clarify - I think she's a great mom, and I enjoy her company, but whenever Peanut visits her, she comes home with a new attitude, one I don't appreciate.  I've noticed the little girl has this attitude, mostly towards her mom, but sometimes directly to Peanut and although I want to say something about how she addresses Peanut, I don't.  I feel some of the language she uses to Peanut is rude and needs to be corrected.  I think she has a really hard time sharing, and I don't think she plays very nicely. 

But the mom is in a tough situation.  She has a life similar to mine.  So, at what point do you cut off a friendship for the influence of your own child? I mean, Peanut will meet kids like this next year in preschool surely.  She might even end up as one (although I hope not!). Do I address it with her and risk offending her? (and truth be told, I'm sure I would)  Do I just correct Peanut after each visit?  Do I explain that although her mom may tolerate that behaviour, I absolutely do not.

Advice..... please!

Working Hard or Hardly Working?

This is a question I get asked all the time as a stay at home mom.  Okay maybe it's not worded quite like that, but the message is always the same.....

"So you don't work?"

"Don't you want your kids to interact with other kids?"

"I guess it was easier to choose to stay home because you didn't have a career before kids"

or my personal favourite..... "What do you do all day? I'd go crazy!"  Well on any given day I would agree that I am crazy, but not due to lack of things to do. 

So before you ask a SAHM why she chooses that option, please remember it is a choice.  One I made, but understand it is not for everyone.  One that although is right for me and my family, does not mean everyone could or should do it. 

We all make choices everyday.... what to eat, what time to wake up, to not use our turn signal in our vehicle, everything we do is a choice.  This is just another one that some make because to them it makes sense.  To them it feels right.  It doesn't make me less of a person or a better mom.  It just makes me.... well me.